#61 Living with the end in mind with Wendy Mitchell
17.07.23
#61 Living with the end in mind with Wendy Mitchell
In this episode it is my pleasure to talk with Wendy Mitchell, author of the best-selling books Somebody I Used to Know, What I wish people knew about dementia and the recently published One Last Thing; How to live with the end in mind.
We connected back in 2022 to explore Wendy’s Advance Care Planning and spoke about the work we did together in an earlier podcast. Wendy writes about her Advance Care Planning journey in her recent book and in discussion today we reflect on missed opportunities to plan ahead, the impact of language and of normalising these important conversations. We also talk about Assisted Dying and what Wendy learned through writing her book.
Wendy is a true inspiration, teaching us all how to live with the end in mind.
Key messages from guest
Wendy describes how she wanted to share the creation of one last book with her fabulous writing partner Anna Wharton.
Wendy invites us to trust her to gently share important conversations about death and dying
We speak about what “unwelcome news” can mean and how this is interpreted differently by different people.
Wendy shares the negative process associated with her dementia appointments; the lack of positivity and absence of Advance Care Planning at appointments and the impact this had on her.
We talk about the importance of normalising Advance Care Planning conversations.
Wendy shares what she has learned about Assisted Dying.
Wendy describes her feelings on a future self and how important it is for her to maintain her autonomy.
Wendy acknowledges the great partnership she has with Anna Wharton and the friendship they have formed since writing together.
Wendy explains how she re- visits her Advance Care Planning regularly with her GP and daughters.
Wendy Mitchell
I was diagnosed with Young Onset Dementia on the 31st July 2014 at the age of 58 years young.
Post diagnosis, I was so shocked by the lack of awareness, both in the community and the clinical world, that I now spend all my time travelling around the country raising awareness and encouraging others to speak out in order to reduce the stigma associated with dementia.
I am now proud to be the author of the not one but two Sunday Times best sellers, Somebody I Used to Know, and What I wish people knew about dementia, and two Honorary Doctorates. My third and final book, One Last Thing, Living with the end in mind has just been released.
Who would have thought that possible 8 years ago when I was diagnosed?
Resource
Hear my earlier podcast with Wendy, recorded in November 2022: Advance Care Planning and dementia with Wendy Mitchell
Access Wendy’s books:
Wendy Mitchell : Somebody I Used to Know
Access Wendy’s website which me am I today?
Learn more about the ReSPECT process that Wendy mentions
Find out more about making a Lasting Power of Attorney
Read Clare’s blog: Making my Advance Decision to Refuse Treatment
Find out more about making a Digital Legacy
Find out more about my Bespoke Consultancy
If you’d like to find out more about my work contact me.
What one thing will you do?
It would be great to share what resonated with you from this episode, what is the one thing you will do differently? Head to Twitter, Facebook or LinkedIn to continue these important conversations.
Thanks to all my guests for working with me to share their knowledge, experience and stories about Advance Care Planning. I hope you enjoyed listening and have insights to take away; I love hearing your reflections on the series and look forward to reviews on Spotify where you can also subscribe to the series.
Clare
Important Conversations about Important Conversations.